for the love of vogs

where the MotleyFlue gather

a love story



This post is inspired by a recent conversation with Miss Stacey K. (The woman so fabulous that a Fluevog was named after her.) When she and I first met, the subject of significant others and Fluevogs came up: What happens if you’re dating someone who doesn’t understand your love of Vogs? 

In truth, I never really considered my Flueddiction as a factor in romantic relationships. Then again, I’m not a relationship expert. However, as someone who is very much in love with the Manpanion, I definitely treasure and understand the importance of a solid relationship… that includes a mutual understanding that to love me is to love my love of Vogs:)

Admittedly, I’m a lucky gal. Though the Manpanion does not wear Vogs (gasp! the horror!), he does appreciate an awesome shoe. Confession: The Manpanion is the type of person who checks out people’s shoes. It’s a miracle he agreed to go out on a second date with me, as I was wearing the ugliest clown striped rainbow rain boots on our first date. Not knowing this, I wore those same ugly rain boots on our second date. I’m still thankful for his forgiving nature:)

These days, the Manpanion supports my Flueddiction in terms of moral support. During our regular trips to visit the dealers, the Manpanion gives me advice and suggestions on what to try on and what to invest in. No. He doesn’t pay for my shoes. Unless it’s a gift, the Manpanion is not my Fluevog sugar daddy. It’s a personal policy of mine: my Flueddiction, my money.  Visits to the Haight Street store consist of me trying on shoes while he chit-chats with the dealers (he and FlueDaddy Denny share a love of documentaries) and/or gets comfy in the corner king’s chair, located near the front window, sometimes sipping on hot coca from the place a few doors down. A partner who is friendly with the dealers and accompanies me to Fluevog store visits is definitely a keeper!

On Sunday mornings, the Manpanion often wakes up to me browsing the ‘net gazing at Fluevogs online. On cue, he jokes about catching me looking at shoe porn. He supported the MotleyFlue by allowing us to use his photographic skills (he took the current banner photo).  When out and about on various adventures, he takes Vogunteer-esque photos of me, just because. Another thing I love about the Manpanion’s support is that while he lets me know what he likes and doesn’t like, he does not have the final say of what I take home. He respects my decisions – even if he may disagree with me. (Note: This applies with everything in our relationship, not just Fluevog decisions.) In the silliest, frilliest, cavity-inducing ways, with my heart and soul, I truly adore the Manpanion.

Meet the Little Js. They are the best stand-ins a couple could ask for!

Meet the Little Js. They are the best stand-ins a couple could ask for!

For this Valentine’s Day, I just wanted to take a moment share my love for the Manpanion. He may not wear Vogs (yet), but he does respect and support my strange quirks. Even better, the important people in my life adore him, and my life is better with him in it. Happy Valentine’s Day, my fellow Fluevogers! Don’t forget to give big hugs and kisses to the incredible people who love you and your love of Vogs:)

for the love of the Manpanion (and loving companions everywhere),



Author: jlrondilla

Joanne L. Rondilla, is a scholar, writer, and educator (not necessarily in that order). She received her Ph.D. at UC Berkeley in Ethnic Studies and her B.A. in Art Studio and Asian American Studies at UC Santa Barbara. Her research focuses on beauty, race, gender, the body, and colonialism. She is the co-author of "Is Lighter Better? Skin Tone Discrimination Among Asian Americans" (with Paul Spickard) and the co-editor of "Pacific Diaspora: Island Peoples in the United States and Across the Pacific" (with Paul Spickard and Debbie Hippolite-Wright). Born and raised in Dededo, Guam, Joanne considers the San Francisco Bay area home. Outside of the academy, she has more than twelve years of work experience in the cosmetics industry as a skincare specialist and make-up artist. While she's not an Imelda Marcos fan, Joanne does love her Fluevogs!

10 thoughts on “a love story

  1. This is so freakin’ sweet!!! Thank you! But I think you should take it down. I told you about all those women that keep sending me emails about trying to get with me. I fear this will make me even more popular with them. Love you!

  2. lol! you two are hilarious and barf-inducing, but the former definitely makes up for the latter. 😉 congratulations on your impending nuptials. and thanks for sharing the love, j-ro! ❤

  3. Dh surprised me with his love of Vogs too. Not good having another Fluevogger in the house! When we went to Vancouver in September he bought a pair of Supervogs (which totally surprised me as I would have never chosen those for him), and a pair of green Radios -with purple laces!-. Then he bought a discontinued pair of Tokyos on Craigslist in a robin blue colour. After that he bought a pair of Earl Warwick Coventry in brown and other Radios (or television?) in purple. And I just bought him a pair of lovely Swordfish Buxton in burgundy 🙂

  4. Happy and humbled to be a positive Fluespiration 🙂 (you ladies have now brainwashed me into inventing new Flue words I hope you are happy). Say does your manpanion have a single twin brother with an urge to move to AZ? Oh, Corner King’s Chair? I have always referred to it simply as MY chair hehe

    • Hi Stacey! I stand corrected. I will now call Corner King’s chair “Stacey’s Throne.” Yes, the Manpanion has a single brother…. Unfortunately, AZ is not in his stars:(

  5. Ahh well it was worth a shot hehe… I wouldn’t call that chair my throne, I just think of it as my San Fran Zen Spot so maybe just renaming the The Zen Chair, open to one and all who visit, well except when I’m there, I will Rochambeau for it lol

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